“Why did Your Prophet Marry Multiple Wives?”

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Assalamualaikum. If somebody had come up to you, and suddenly asked you this question: “Why did your Prophet marry multiple wives?”

Or, how about this one, “Why did the Prophet marry his wife, Aishah at such a young age?”

Sadly, on Youtube, and elsewhere on the internet, all over the world in fact, people are exploiting this to make fun of Islam.

How should we deal with this ignorant people? (they are also called ISLAMOPHOBES, from the word islamophobia)

Anyway, hopefully, the following article may help us come up with the right answers, InsyaAllah.

Here is the answer as given in a lecture by Amro Khalid about the Ummul Mukminin (the Mothers of the Believers @ the Prophet’s Wives)

-Let us first ask ourselves, how many wives did the Prophet have?

The answer is twelve. (two of them died in his life)

-Do you know their names? (sorry, excuse my spelling)

1. Khadijah bt Khuwaylid
2. Sawdah bt Zamaah
3. Aishah bt Abi Bakr
4. Hafsah bt Omar
5. Zaynab bt Khuzaymah
6. Ummu Salamah @ Hind bt Otbah
7. Zaynab bt Jahsh
8. Juwairiyah bt Alharith
9. Safiyah bt Huyay Ibn Akhtab
10. Ummu Habibah Ramlah bt Abi Sufyan
11. Mariya bt Shamoun, the Egyptian
12. Maymunah bt Alharith

-Did the Prophet’s (SAW) wives marry for the first time? (in other words, were they all virgins?)

Only ONE, Aishah, the rest were all either widowed or divorced.

-Were they all Arabs?

All, except Mariya, who was Egyptian.

-Were they all Muslims?

All, but two. Safiya was a Jew and Mariya was a Christian (The People of the Book @ Ahli Kitab)

-Now, let us answer the main and very important question: Was it lust @ sexual desire that led the Prophet (SAW) to marry multiple wives?

To answer that question, we have to mention the following facts:

1. the Prophet SAW married for the first time when he was 25.

2. the first woman he married, Khadijah, was 40, ALREADY MARRIED TWICE and had children of her own. He stayed married to her ALONE for 25 years until she died. He stayed SINGLE for two years in grief, mourning over her death.(The Prophet truly loved her. When his other wives asked him why he always mentioned Khadijah’s name, he replied, “At a time when others didn’t believe in me, she was the one who did”). He was then 52.

3. from 52 till 60, he married several times for social and political reasons, NOT due to lust. After two years of living single, he married Sawdah, an 80 year old woman, in order to honour her as she was the FIRST WIDOW IN ISLAM. Clearly, this wasn’t an act of a lustful man after a period of living single.

4. it is completely ILLOGICAL to say that lust had appeared suddenly in the Prophet’s (SAW) life at 52, especially when one considers the fierce physical and psychological struggle to spread Islam.

There are two CONCLUSIONS that we can extract from the above:
1. Muhammad the MAN married Khadijah.
2. Muhammad the PROPHET SAW married the rest of his wives.

Does that say something..? think about it ;)

-Was Prophet Muhammad SAW the only Prophet who practiced polygamy?

Of course not. Polygamy was the NORM at the times of Ibrahim, Dawud, and Sulayman, (Allah’s peace be upon them) all known in the Bible to have been polygamists.

Let us now mention the POLITICAL, SOCIAL, AND RELIGIOUS reasons the Prophet SAW had these marriages.
1. to spread the culture through eyewitnesses with all the details known only by intimate people. Aishah, who was so young at that time, was able to tell all those details to the Muslims for more than 42 years. She had seen and learnt so much from him. Her young age was a great advantage in this respect. She could tell what the Prophet SAW used to do or say in all aspects of life, so that people do and say the same in similar situations. Aishah was the most knowledgeable person when it comes to the daily life of the Muslim, (it is well known that even the Prophet’s SAW MALE companions sought Aishah’s knowledge/ opinions on various issues) how it should go, as it was lived by the Prophet SAW himself.

2. but how come he married her (Aishah) when she was only 9? The desert climate answers to that. In such environments, girls reach maturity very quickly. (anyway, we are talking about sth that happened more than 1400 years ago. Even today, in Indonesia for example, it is normal for 18 year old girls like us to have babies! So zaman dulu, tak heran la kawen 9 tahun sekalipun. The fact is, across the globe, in many cultures, puberty is the onset of marriage. My father used to tell me, a fren of his masa sekolah rendah dulu got married at 12. and when was that? The 1960s!! Tgk situasi la, of course..btw, I am not, in any way, encouraging childhood marriages in OUR society! ;p) Not only in Arabia, but also in Roma and in Persia, girls were married that young.

3. to strengthen the relationship with his companions, he married Abi Bakr’s daughter, and Umar’s sister. He also married his daughters to Uthman and Ali. May Allah be pleased with them all.

4. out of mercy, and to honour the early the earliest widows in Islam (husbands either martyred (syaheed), or were non-Muslims who divorced them). Sawdah, Habibah, and Ummu Salamah were widows.

5. the Prophet was being a role model for the Muslims by being kind to the widows and to the People of the Book (Ahli Kitab) who newly embraced Islam. He married Safiyah, after his father, a Jew, embraced Islam, so the Prophet SAW gave him and his daughter the honour among his people.

6. the Prophet SAW wanted to have ties and links with the different nations of the world. When he married Mariya, all Egyptians were on his side, and when he married Juwairiyah, all of her people embraced Islam (the Bani Almustalaq, captured by the Muslims in a battle).

I wish this makes you more assured, and hopefully able to take a stand up to allegations against the Prophet Muhammad SAW.

(Note : This article was shared by one of my exschoolmates , and I can't remember the original link , sorry .)

Salam Maal Hijrah 1432

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Mana Satu Pilihan Hati

Saya bertanya kepada emak, "mak mana satu pilihan hati, orang yang sayangkan kita atau yang kita sayang?"

Mak jawab, "dua-dua bukan.."

Saya tercengang. Mak mengukir senyuman.

"Pilihan hati mak adalah yang sayangkan kita kerana Allah.." saya menarik nafas dalam-dalam.

"Macam mana nak tau orang tu sayang kita kerana apa?" Mak diam sekejap berfikir dan kemudian tersenyum.

Rasanya mak dapat menduga apa yang sedang bermain dalam hati anak perempuannya. Mana mungkin saya mampu menyorokkan rahsia hati dari mak sedangkan sekilas saya pun mak mampu membacanya.

"Yang paling tahu hanya Allah.." mak merenung dalam-dalam wajah anaknya.

"Kerana hanya Allah mampu membaca hati hambaNya.." mak menyusun ayat-ayatnya.
"Dan keikhlasan kerana Allah itu akan terserlah keberkatannya tanpa perlu sengaja ditonjokan oleh seseorang tu.."

Saya memintas, "Tak faham.."

Mak menyambung, "Cinta di dalam jalan Allah.. Bertemu kerana sama-sama mencari redha Allah.."
Mak menyambung lagi, "Begini, setiap insan yang bergelar manusia telah Allah ciptakan berpasang-pasangan. Rasa ingin dikasihi antara seorang suami dan isteri suatu fitrah. Automatik boleh ada daya tarikan magnet tu.."

Wajah saya merah, sedikit cemas jika mak dapat mengesan gelora jiwa muda ini..
Mak menyambung, "Setiap manusia telah Allah tetapkan rezeki, jodoh dan maut sejak azali lagi. Persoalannya ialah.. siapakah jodohnya itu?" mak berhenti seketika.
Saya tunduk malu, cuba menyorokkan rasa panas di pipi. Emak buat-buat tidak nampak.

"Mak dulu masa muda ada secret admire. Rajin betul dia hantar surat. Masa tu mak dah tahu yang bercinta sebelum kahwin ni tak halal. Mak nak belajar sungguh-sungguh. Lama budak tu tunggu mak.

Akhirnya mak bagi kata putus, mak hanya akan membalas cinta dia jika dia sah suami mak. Dan dia memang bukan jodoh mak, maka tak pernah dia menerima balasan cinta tu," Mak merenung jauh. Saya merapatkan badan kepada emak, semakin berminat dengan kisah lama mak..
"Mak memang tak ada perasaan lansung pada dia ke?" saya menyoal sambil memandang tajam wajah mak.

Emak ketawa kecil.

"Walaupun mungkin ada, mak tak pernah bagi peluang pada diri mak untuk mengisytiharkan perasaan tu. Mak takut pada Allah. Mak bukan seperti rakan sebaya mak yang lain. Mak, seperti kakak.." Mak memandang saya sambil memegang pipi dan dagu saya. Kemudian tangannya mengusap rambut di kepala saya.

"Dulu bila di sekolah, mak pelajar pertama yang bertudung. Mak membawa imej agama. Kawan-kawan dan cikgu-cikgu panggil mak dengan gelaran mak Aji. Sebab zaman tu hujung 70-an dan awal 80-an tak ramai lagi yang bertudung betul menutup auratnya. Zaman tudung nipis dan nampak jambul. Kemudian kawan-kawan mak sikit-sikit ikut bertudung. Akhirnya kami semua dipanggil di perhimpunan. Kami dimarah guru besar kerana bertudung sedangkan ustazah kami bertudung tapi nampak jambulnya.." emak melemparkan pandangan ke lantai.

"Selepas itu ustazah jumpa kami secara persendirian. Ustazah kata dia tak mampu nak pakai seperti kami. Dia suruh kami teruskan.." sambung emak.
Ada getar di hujung suara emak. Kisah silam perjuangan emak di sekolah dahulu sikit-sikit emak ceritakan pada saya. Itulah juga salah satu inspirasi kepada saya untuk bangkit semula setiap kali terjatuh ketika berjuang di sekolah dulu.

"Mungkin kerana personaliti mak, mak menjadi tempat rujukan kawan-kawan mak. Jadi, bila mak nak ambil sesuatu tindakan, mak kena fikir betul-betul sama ada tindakan mak tu akan menyebabkan Allah marah atau tidak. Mak ayah berdosa tak? Dan maruah pembawa agama terjejas tak? Kalau mak membalas cinta si lelaki tadi, bermakna mak sedang menconteng arang di muka-muka pembawa-pembawa agama. Orang akan pandang serong terhadap orang yang bertudung sedangkan kesilapan tu hanya seorang dua yang buat. Besar fitnah akan timbul apabila orang-orang agama mengambil ringan batas syariat duhai anak.." mak menelan air liurnya.

Saya diam. Fikiran saya sedang cuba memahami maksud mak saya.

"Jatuh cinta perkara biasa. Apabila kita jatuh cinta pada seseorang, itu tandanya ada sesuatu keistimewaan pada seseorang tu. Apatah lagi orang yang kita jatuh cinta tu di atas jalan dakwah ni. Tetapi kita kena ingat. Kita tak akan dikahwinkan dengan seseorang atas sebab jatuh cinta atau saling cinta mencintai. Bercouple mungkin. Tetapi bukan berkahwin. Kerana kita berkahwin dengan jodoh kita, jodoh yang Allah dah tetapkan sejak azali. Dan tak mustahil orang yang kita paling benci itulah jodoh kita yang kita akan dikahwinkan dengannya.."

Tiba-tiba air mata saya mengalir. Argh! Ego saya kalah bila mendengar hujah emak.
Emak meneruskan, "Allah itu Maha Adil. Dia tak pernah menzalimi hamba-Nya. Sesungguhnya, yang selalu menzalimi hamba-Nya ialah diri hamba tu sendiri. Sebabnya hamba itu degil. Dia mahukan yang bukan haknya dan yang bukan milik dia. Mencintai seseorang tidak semestinya memilikinya.
Dalam Islam, kita dah diajar untuk saling mencintai antara satu sama lain seperti diri sendiri. Jadi apabila kita mencintai saudara perempuan, kita bebas peluk dia. Tetapi bila dengan lelaki, kita ada batas-batasnya. Orang kafir kata batas-batas ini suatu diskriminasi, tetapi sebenarnya batas-batas syariat itulah yang memelihara kehormatan seorang lelaki dan seorang perempuan.

Cuba renungkan, kita mengenali seorang insan yang amat baik, sempurna agamanya dan rajin. Lalu kita jatuh hati padanya. Ditakdirkan jodohnya dengan insan lain, kita pula dengan yang lain. Tetapi itu tidak bermakna ukhwah antara kita dan dia terputus. Kita dan dia sama-sama mencari redha Allah. Kita dan dia masih boleh sama-sama bekerjasama untuk mencari redha Allah. Perbezaannya, dia halal untuk isterinya sedangkan untuk kita, dia tetap lelaki ajnabi seperti yang awalnya," emak berhenti seketika.

Tentu kering tekak emak menerangkan kepada saya persoalan hati ini.
 
Emak menarik tubuh saya dan memeluk erat. Pelukan emak sangat-sangat kuat. "Emak dah didik anak emak dari belum lahir untuk mencintai Allah. Sekarang emak serahkan anak emak yang mak sayang sangat ni pada Allah untuk Dia pelihara," emak mengakhiri kata-katanya dengan suara sebak dan air mata yang mengalir ke bahu saya.

kesimpulan****

Jatuh cinta itu kerana kita jatuh cinta kepada Pencipta dia.
 
Letakkan Allah sebagai sempadan hati kita.

So, kita kena dekatkan diri dengan Allah. 

Sebab kita nak dia pegang kukuh-kukuh hati kita.

ingatlah bahawa dalam diri setiap insan telah Allah ciptakan dengan kelebihan masing-masing.

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